The 56th Mile of Life

      Time and Healing are the hardest things to confront, especially regarding Healing. Too many times in life, we try to rush the process only for it to backfire. So, for this blog post, you get to meet my friends, Time and Healing. Time is different, and he moves at his own pace; you can’t rush Time or even speed Time up. The divine have always incorporated Time in their healing practices. Time is essential not only for knowing ourselves but also for knowing what goes on in the world around us. 

      Healing, though, can hit hard. It’s not for the weak. It sure isn’t for those who are not open-minded. To heal something doesn’t mean it ever gets fixed; like any trauma, there is scar tissue. The wound is there as a reminder, and it doesn’t go away; it heals into a piece of you. But it is your job to keep it clean, healing, and secure until you can finally give it air to breathe. The phantom pain hits you when you least expect it. Healing can throw hands, but you must put in the work and hit back harder. 

      In the operating room, when it comes down to saving a patient’s life, it all comes down to divine timing. In minutes and seconds, you have to assess your surroundings, decide on a plan, and take action. Your heart is racing, and all you want are good outcomes. You can not put a band-aid on Time. This is essential for growth.

      In today’s society, people have this idea that to heal, you have to sweep it under the rug, move on, and take your chances, but if you do that, you could be hurting yourself more because you have not allowed yourself to process the grief and hurt that comes from losing something. Now, in no shape, or form does that mean that you stay there permanently; no, my darling readers, you dive deep into self-healing, find your growth and the things you need to work on, you move forward and find happiness again within yourself, so that way when the Time is correct, you can take your next steps not only with confidence

 but also with forgiveness. It never helps anyone to take one problem into another person’s life, costing them their happiness.

       I was working out the other day when Time and Healing decided to visit me. Time came in first as I took my first swing at the punching bag, trying to ignore his presence, “You know no matter how many times you hit that, you can’t run away from your problems, right?” Time being blunt, straightforward, and to the point. The door opens again, and Healing walks in. “Leave the poor girl alone. She has been through enough.” Healing had a stern look on her face and stared right at Time. 

      “Look, I’m sorry, okay? I want her to heal the right way this Time, you. No more toxic karmic cycles, just the process.” Time says. I take my gloves off, look at him dead in the face, and say, “You have that on your side; I don’t,” I say, taking in deep breaths from going hard. “Yeah, but so do you; everything is not a race at the end of this journey. There are no winners and losers but only the good you have in your heart and the good you produce towards others.” Time was correct, and to add on, Healing exuded her soft, gentle voice, caressing Time’s arm. “He’s right, you know, this hurt has to be processed the right way. Your heart is so big, and I know it’s painful, but it has to heal. You can’t keep opening the wound; it has to Heal.” 

     I sigh and look at them, not fighting and working together. Their example lets me know they are both right. “Thank you,” I say to them. They both hugged me and stayed for one last thing. “56.” I turn my head to look at them as I drink a sip of water. “Retake your time. It is not a race.” then Healing interjects, “Love will always hurt, but the things that are easy are not worth fighting for because Time is the challenge.” She smirked as she finished, and we both looked at Time and laughed. “Hey, I heard that.” We start laughing even harder. 

      Even when we are at our lowest, Time heals all wounds, and healing is there to form the scar correctly. It will always be a part of your cause, and that is how unconditional love works, but the key is moving forward on your own two feet. Having help is an ally, but don’t confuse help with dependency. That is where healing is affected and warped into a painful memory. In situations, relationships, and friendships, you will always have growing pains, but to maintain those relationships, you have to be willing not only to put in the work but also the time and healing; that’s how they last. That is why my friends go together and walk the path with each other. You may even find that the right relationships will wait for your healing and bring you back together more vigorously than ever, the scar still there but a reminder of what strength you had to endure. 

Always,

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